being thankful, grass is always greener on the other side, Sarah Ban Breathnach quote, Thankful, thanksgiving, thanksgiving day, welcoming Christmas, welcoming Christmas season, welcoming December, what are you thankful for?
On the fourth Thursday of November Americans and Canadians (and some other people from some other countries) celebrate the Thanksgiving day. Even it became a national holiday in United States since 1863. Regardless how they actually celebrate it or how the meaning of the day is perceived now, that’s definitely a good thing of having such tradition. Gathering together with the whole family, eating together, enjoying the time together, and just giving thanks to what they happened to experience along the preceding year. I don’t really mind about the how of this day is celebrated, but I really like the idea of having such day in the family, or community, or nation. The meaning is much deeper than just eating turkeys, cranberries, and some other must-have menu. It is about separating a special day to gather and give thanks to the Giver of all things, despite the fact that we actually need to be everyday thankful.
Too many times in our life, we experience those moments that the grass is always greener on the other side.
the ultimate reason why we always think that the grass is always greener on the other side is because we just cant stop comparing ourselves to other people. We are just too many times too focused on what is missing in our life, on things we don’t have, on things we can’t afford, etc. When we start comparing ourselves with our neighbors, we tend to feel discouraged, down and sucks. And when we feel that way, it will be very hard for us to be thankful for what we got, because we always feel that what we have now is just not enough.
I believe being thankful is not about being satisfied with what we have now. Okay, I am thankful for what I have now, it’s all enough and I ask for no more. No way. Being thankful is knowing exactly our own capacity and capability gifted by God to us. Therefore we do nothing but our best to make the most of what we have. Being thankful is being fully aware of the talents we are given, without thinking why my friends are given more. Being thankful means getting ourselves not too focused on what’s missing. Every one of us has each part, given according to the mercy of the Giver. Every one of us has been given each part according to the Master’s plan. We are called to do different things, have different talents and stuff, and also, be different people. Really, God didn’t use cookie-cutter when He created all of us. He has each story for each one. He made it written in the Book of Life all pages complete even before our mother met our father, even farther, before the world began.
I try to reflect this through on my own life. I am now living in a place where I can find thousands of reasons to curse on the situation. I have all those things to be complained. But I learned that they will never change as I curse on them. But as I walk along, I know I still have a choice, and that is fully available for me to choose. That in this moments of lack, I can choose to be focused on what’s there not on what’s not. Focused on the precious students I have, the fun and encouraging fellows, caring and loving family back at home, and just on things I have. That means including health, new opportunity to see a new day once again, and many other little things that most of the time I just forgot to be thankful for them.
Well, I chose that option. I took that option instead of living a life full of bitterness. I am just trying to live day to day, trying not to focused on what’s absent, but be thankful for what’s present and just make the most of what I’ve got. I am trying to live right here and right now. Putting all my heart to where I am right now, 100%. I just don’t wanna miss the reality. Because what’s real is right here right now and right where you are. All the sweetness of the past is not here no more, while all the dreams of tomorrow are ready to be unlocked today.
Now, ask yourself this one simple question
This question must be very hard if you keep yourself focused on what you don’t have and even more what you just can’t afford. I’ve been there and I just don’t want to live there no more. This life is not to be spent that way. That’s plain miserable.
Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend … when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present — love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure — the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience Heaven on earth.
— Sarah Ban Breathnach
Another day, another lesson learned.
*the first two pictures are not mine.